When I browsed to internet to look for advantages and/or benefits of divorce, it came as no surprise that there was a shortage of informative and encouraging sources. But for the sake of leveling the field and balancing out the disadvantages of divorce I discussed in a previous blog post, here are the ones I was able to extract.
True enough, getting a divorce or legally voiding marriage is not really the end of the world. More so, it could even mean the start of something better and brighter for one or both of the spouses after a horrible relationship of abuse, arguments and battling it out in court. Divorce is usually associated with sorrow, pain, brokenness, dissonance and so many more negative feelings that could deeply afflict the former spouses as well as their children. But those who go through with the traumatic sufferings of divorce tend to forget that divorce is a remedial measure for the unhappiness and grief that marriage has brought for them.
Therefore, looking only at the depressing effects divorce has on those it involves, it also pays to look at the brighter side of things. After all, wasn’t divorce supposed to be the “solution” to a “problem”? And solutions are almost always supposed to be positive. The benefits of divorce include:
It gives life a new beginning. Of course, divorce is usually the last resort a couple would go to if their marriage is not the most ideal and happy relationship. But sometimes, it is simply unfeasible for relationships to work even if there have been several instances trying to revive and rekindle it—even erase the horrible past and start from scratch. Therefore, divorce could mean a chance at starting afresh, and with a clean slate. It means letting go and moving on. After all, we were not given this life to mope on our problems but to live it.
Freedom is one of the best benefits. Marriage is a partnership and when one spouse tries to control the other, it is unhealthy and takes its toll psychologically and emotionally to the other spouse. But luckily, divorce could mean breaking away and having a newfound freedom. They no longer have to account for anyone but himself or herself which personally, I think is very liberating since I am never one to allow anyone to control me to a great extent. A great weight is lifted and life will eventually present many new opportunities.
New relationships. Many a time, people who have just gotten out of a horrible marriage become pessimistic and think that there is no one else for them and become too vulnerable to allow anyone else into their life. But people are very adaptive beings and soon enough, they learn to let their guard down and this could mean another shot at committing to someone who can give you genuine, unconditional love.
Personal growth. New beginnings and freedom in life is the passageway to individual growth. It gives you the power to take over and listen to what your feelings are, discover who you were meant to be and developing your capabilities. Unbalanced marriages tend to stop this individual growth but divorce gives you another chance at it.
Sources:
http://benefitof.net/benefits-of-divorce/
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2822476/the_benefits_of_getting_a_divorce_pg2.html?cat=41
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