It's All Out

I have made my stand on divorce. I thought deciding if I was pro- or anti-divorce would take a lot more thought than I have already done while typing divorce blog posts here. But it just came to me the way I decided on other things, which was when I was taking a steaming hot shower one night.

I am anti-divorce. It was more of a light bulb moment. I thought, when I get married and have my own family, would I want an option for my husband and I to divorce? No. No. No. Not at all! Because no matter how hard and dreading a situation my family and I would come across, we will work at it, strengthen our relationship and fight it. Cheesy as it sounds but, try and try until you succeed. Marriage is an institution of God that should not be broken—like what the Bible says; do not let man destroy what God created. Moreover, do not void marriage with someone you were created to be with. I also thought as a child, would I want my parents to have the option of divorce in the future? No, again. Of course it is inevitable that marriages are imperfect, people discover flaws in each other through time that they might not be able to bare and live with for the rest of their life, and eventually have to separate. Separation merely means people being apart from each other physically. Since separation is unavoidable, I accept it—some people may have really been trying hard at their marriage for a decade but cannot seem to make it work anymore. But divorce is another story; it is a legal dissolution of marriage. Sure, through paper the divorce may be null and void but it is at the same time bound by the faith, church and specially God as witness. Again, mankind should not destroy what He has created. So the element of marriage may still be there, and if divorced couples remarry other people they would be committing another sin—adultery. So there, it is all out now. But I promise that my succeeding posts will remain nonbiased despite being anti-divorce. And I do not have anything against those who support divorce. In this debate, respect towards one’s opinions should be valued. All of us come from different walks of life, some of you might have experienced being in a troubled family and think that divorce would be the best solution to ease the situation, while some, like me wants to think of things with optimism and positivity—that I would never, and do not ever want to go through such a situation. So I will do my best as a daughter to keep my family in its peaceful and blissful state right now and in the future, work hard everyday at building a strong, God-centered marriage.

Would you want to look at the future seeing the possibility of an unhappy, unworkable marriage? And have the option to divorce? Or look at the future trying each and everyday—for the sake of yourself, your spouse and your children—to have an unbroken family?